Advantages of dating a black women
I'm a black dude hooked up with a black woman--but I don't sleep with "black people." "Black people" don't pay half of my rent.
"Black people" didn't take my son to tennis lessons this week.
Although my guess hit the mark, when my friend told me his wife was indeed Caucasian, I felt my spirit...wince. African people worldwide are known to be welcoming and open-minded.
We share our culture sometimes to our own peril and most of us love the very notion of love.
By her own reckoning Jill Scott's friend is "new." All she knows about him is that he's nice-looking, well compensated and loves his mother.
He could have a trail of baby momma's from Oakland to Kansas City.
It took a lot of introspection and a lot of strength to not let the cruel bullying I experienced break me.
To be blunt--I think people who spend their time stressing about the DNA admixture in other people's relationship need to give some thought to boundaries.
My position is that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America.
Scott goes on to detail the history of black women, racist degradation, and beauty standards. But I think the key problem here is a common one--a kind of collectivist approach toward something as individual and private as marriage.
One thing I've come to understand, through my own relationship, is that for people who are really working at commitment, a relationship quickly ceases to be a political statement.
There is certainly part of me that feels my partnership with a black woman says something about me. The problem is that no committed person goes to bed with black spouse or a white spouse.
Relationships are not (anymore, at least) a collectivist act.